BDSM

What Does BDSM stand for?

BDSM is a mix of 3 abbreviations, being BD, DS and SM. Meaning: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. These are the 3 separate parts of BDSM, but because there's such a big overlay, we generally speak of BDSM

This means that you will find all kinds of people who all in their own way share and express their BDSM feelings.  Threat anyone with due respect, just as you would like to be respected for your interpretation  of your feelings. Not anyone's style has to appeal to you and some can go way further than you would consider 'normal' but remember that this applies to you to. (if you don't believe me, go and ask your neighbors about you)

I think I am submissive but the thought of needles, whips and canes scare the *** out of me.

It's a common misunderstanding that a submissive has to be able to receive 200 whippings while being nailed to a cross upside down. There are people who appreciate a submissives value by the amount of pain and torture it can endure, but it's not the general way to appreciate the submissive.

Submission can be expressed in many ways from mild to extreme and there's no right or wrong way.  But who's the best submissive? This seems to be different for anyone, but in fact it not true because the most beautiful gift a submissive can give to it's Dominant is his/her submission and trust.  The trust is there based on agreements you've made concerning mental and physical limits, specific needs and the boundaries in which both are prepared to play. The trust is there if you know the Dominant will never cross the boundaries.  Trust is something one needs to earn, so if your Dominant also is new to this, help him/her as much as he/she helps you. The only way you can do this is by being totally honest. Don't lie because you don't want to hurt some ones feelings. If a Dominant makes a mistake and you don't tell him/her, he/she will probably do it again and again while hurting or damaging you and your trust.

So if you can make a Dominant feel how you trust him/Her blindly and you are unconditionally submissive to Him/her, while being smart enough to help Him/Her understand your needs, do's and don'ts, you are a good sub, no a great sub!